Editing Out Negativity Creates New Perspective
Forgiveness is an inside job. You have to be willing to look inside yourself and figure out what loaded words need editing. Once they are out of your life, then you can go on to be a happy and productive person. If you do not take time for reflection, then you get stuck in a trap of fear, resentment and self-ridicule. And really, life is too short to waste it on that kind of negativity.
Be honest. Raise your hand if a derogatory term has ever slipped through your lips – about yourself? Like Scotty Smalls in the 1993 summer-time classic, “The Sandlot,” I’ve caught myself saying the equivalent of “Don’t be a Goofus! Don’t be a Goofus!” This especially happens before walking into a meeting or a business event where I do not know a single soul.
Benching yourself due to fear of failure – or worse yet, the fear of success – can be avoided through the act of rethinking actions. Consciously replacing negative thoughts – stoked with fear and tinged with shame – with thoughts of success that feed feelings of confidence. Sometimes life’s memories need to be edited to allow us to get back into the game.
There are many ways that writing can be used to give the calm of new perspective to end negative thought patterns. In doing so, you can find ways to release errors and forgive yourself. These methods include the following:
- A Personal Letter or Note. Written with the help of someone, if needed. Then, self-address it, drop it in a mailbox or at a Post Office, and forget about it for a few days. When it arrives, set aside some time to slowly read the note or letter, which will request forgiveness. Read it either aloud or to yourself. Then, say to yourself, “I forgive you!” This is a very powerful tool to dismantle negativity.
- Recite custom affirmations to yourself to let go of the patterns of fear, resentment and shame from your own self-talk.
- Jot a two-column list. In the left column, place the errors made in the past. In the right column, place the corrections to the errors. Refer back to the list until the new positive patterns become incorporated into your everyday life.
Edit out that negative self-chatter. That is something only a Goofus would do anyway!