Proposals that Help Cupid’s Arrow Hit Mark
You’ve set the scene. Decided on the biggies: The Day. The Time. The Place. But when it comes to the words, you may do as many do and wing it. “I’m pretty good thinking on my feet,” you may tell yourself. Or, maybe, you are just going for the traditional drop-to-knee and “Will you marry me?” You took the time to make a memorable setting – a corner table at a romantic restaurant – a special day that makes hearts aflutter – say Valentine’s Day – and time – by remembering that she prefers to eat before 8:00 PM. Then why, oh why, would you throw the actual proposal to chance? Or, hit the tried and true approach, “Darling, marry me?” which is as stale as last year’s Halloween candy?
Here are three little tips. They pack a punch in the wording of a marriage proposal. So you get the right results. In fact, the only results, you want to such an important question. The tips consist of nostalgia, creativity, and novelty.
The wording that takes a cue from things remembered works well with heirloom rings given within a traditional setting. The Nostalgia Approach calls on those things that families relate to previous wearers of the ring. The wording can come from qualities that both the ring and its future recipient have in common. Terms like “mesmerizing”, “enchanting” and “provocative” can be used in a short proposal. They speak to the traditions that are found within a time-honored keepsake being passed from one generation to the next.
The Creative Approach captures the naturalistic essence of the relationship in words and setting. For example, every couple has shared interests, which are frequently enjoyed in the form of dates. Whether it is ballroom dancing, ice skating, or seeing live theater, the wording can be based on the activity. In the example of ballroom dancing, the words, “spiral”, “twinkle” and “turn” can be added to a proposal for lively imagery of a cherished recreation.
And on to the Novel Approach. This choice finds something within a loved one’s interests and plays off the wording of the experience. Imagine this scene: A young man, who knows his girlfriend adores music boxes, hands her a crystal box. He says, “I have something I want you to wind up.” She is delighted by the the box – so finely cut that it appears to be a solid block. She tells him so, then asks how to wind it. He takes it back and says as he opens it, “I’d like you to wear it instead!” It is the surprise in the discovery that makes the Novel Approach work. I should know. I’ve been wearing that band like a song for over three decades now.
With a bit of nostalgia, a dash of creativity, and a splash of novelty, you can help Cupid’s arrow hit its intended mark. And, then, you can relax and have a lifetime to be grateful for making the effort to not sound like everyone else.