Flip Complain to Access Flow
Today’s word-of-the-day selection is complain (v): 1. to express grief, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or dissatisfaction. He complained constantly about the noise in the corridor. 2. to tell of one’s pains, ailments, ect. to complain about a pain in one’s back. 3. to make a formal accusation. The ambassador complained about the student demonstrations. People complain in a lot of ways, but for the same reason. They repeat voiced negativity for emphasis. The scale of the message gets amplified when a concern is not being heard. That is why it is so important to flip an expression of pain or resentment before it gets turned into rage.
Consider the lyrics of the Beatles’ song, Hey Jude, which advises Jude to take a sad song and make it better. The entire song gives a blueprint on how to heal. The song was composed by Paul McCartney to comfort Julian Lennon as his parents divorced. The expressed grief is cured through taking self-care steps to feel the pain of a family breakup. Flipping grief helps writers, too, to make it better. Especially after one too many rejections pop up in Submitable or in SNAIL mail.
Show Me What It Looks Like
Consciousness cures chronic complaining. My father, who passed away 22 years today, taught his children to switch up negative situations. He was a big believer in Wayne Dyer, Zig Ziglar, and Denis Waitley, who exuded positive mindset long before it became trendy. If any of us kids misplaced a shoe or a library book – or anything, really – Dad would inevitably say: Show me what it looks like and I’ll tell you where it is. Of course, this phrase sent the recipient back to the self-reliant task of finding the lost object. He probably had never heard of the metaphysical healer, Louise Hay, yet one of her mantras fit his situation re-framing thinking well: Out of this situation only good will come.
The Message of Complain
The message of this word is a cry for help: Will someone listen to me? I need attention. I need help with follow-through. I need to be recognized. There is a great meme that pops up frequently on my social media sites. It says Be the person you needed when you were a child. Each one of us has the intestinal fortitude to indeed take a sad song and make it better. The key is taking time to listen to our own thoughts. How? We can write stream-of-conscious journal entries, take a walk, or simply quietly sit with eyes shut. Then, listen to what comes up.
Take out your journal. Write about anything that annoys, enrages, or exhausts you. Then, flip the situation. Create ownership for creating the change needed. Finally, take a single action to move forward in a different direction.
Here’s to growing your flow,